Political Morality Part 3

Decoding Our Moral System as a Country

Nothing in this series is meant to give validity to one or other way of thinking. It is simply meant to awaken us to how this system is working.

Morality is nonphysical, abstract, and based on what we have been taught. The strict father sense of morality is based on the idea that the world is fundamentally a dangerous place and life is difficult. You must be disciplined to succeed and be a good upright person.

Those who fall in this strict father belief system apply the belief to the running of government. For instance when a city or group of people disobey the father’s (President, governor’s, or mayor’s rules) there is a punishment such as the withholding of funds to sanctuary cities. Rules are made by leaders to protect the people, to help citizens to become self-disciplined such as the campaign by President Reagan to just say no to sex and drugs. Saying no would imply that the individuals had self-discipline etc.

The Strict Father Goals are to 1) maintain order 2) supporting and preserving the system of authority 3) using authority to protect those under their authority 4) using authority to help people become better through discipline. Evil is anything external or internal that is contrary to the rules set by the authority. Good is that which defends the rules and is disciplined.

Moral Strength, being good is being upright, evil is falling. Morality is strength. Moral strength is seen in two lights. You must have moral strength in order to stand up to evil and the moral strength creates (defines) the evil. This concept of morality dismisses social energies, social classes etc. If you can say no to sex, drugs, and rock and roll, you are morally a good person with self-discipline all else is a failing. Rules and laws are put in place to reward and protect those good people who have self- discipline and are good upright people. Hence the idea that those in higher income bracket deserve tax breaks (rewards for being good people). Rewards are based on competition and playing by the rules. Hence, gathering large quantities of money is seen as winning a competition and thus being a good upright person.

The moral order is: God is more powerful than people; People are more powerful than plants, animals, and natural objects (this has broad indication on environmental laws and enforcement); Adults are more powerful than children, and Men are inherently more powerful than women (implications about women’s health concerns are indicated here.)

The Nurturant Mother model has similar goals to the Strict Father model, such as protection and helping others to become self-reliant. However, how this modality works is based on a very different perception of morality. Protection is seen as caring for the individuals or social class to protect them from external danger. Competition is not a concern of the nurturant parent. A successful life for the nurturant is one where the child learns to care for others (empathy). The protections from evils are seen differently. Crime and drugs are still seen as dangers, but dangers also include less obvious dangers such as cigarettes, cars without seat belts, dangerous toys, pollution, asbestos…etc. Included in this long list are unscrupulous businesses and persons. To protect the child the nurturant parent needs courage and strength. Children respond to the nurturant parent out of love and respect rather than fear of punishment.

It is important to note that the nurturant parent does not see happiness connected with the accumulation of worldly goods, but rather the ability of the child to establish empathy and compassion with family and social ties. Social ties must be maintained to remain moral. Morality is empathy. But empathy is more than the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule requires you accept others value system in order to have empathy. This in turn can create a paradox because the value system of empathy is needed to treat the situation. Yet if a nurturant is to have empathy for a strict father person whose values are quite different from the nurturant mother’s values a paradox is created. This situation of course is not reversible, as the Strict Father model does not need to consider the values of the Nurturant Mother’s values. For the strict father’s values are seen as absolute and irrefutable.

In government we can see how laws and rules play out through Nurturant governance. Programs and laws are initiated in areas such education, care (health coverage for all) , social security, financial aid, fair immigration policies that allow dream children to become naturalized without the fear of deportation. In the nurturant parent model of government All people are seen as equal and good, and capable of empathic acts. Punishment becomes different forms of education helping the person become an empathic capable person for their community.

Immigration: The nurturant parent will say see how much they give to the community (family) they are good upright individuals.” The strict parent says “they have broken the law and must be disciplined (deported).”

For the nurturant parent: Morality is empathy; morality is taking care of oneself; self-development of human potential; Morality is happiness (one must be happy to help others achieve happiness); Morality is fair distribution.

Moral failings for the nurturant person are: Lack of social responsibility, lack of empathy, self-righteousness, narrow-mindedness, inconsideration, aesthetic insensitivity, meanness, uncommunicative (lack of response avoiding honest conversation), and self-centeredness to name a few.

Our goal is to understand our self and others so the lines of communication can be opened.

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Political Morality Part 2

As a student of mind and consciousness, I have learned that 90% of all decisions are made from our unconscious mind based on our early years’ experiences. Morality and ethics are perceived through the lens of our belief structure; we make decisions based on what we were taught is a good person, idea, and thought. Now, perhaps more than ever, it is crucial that we recognize what we must do to protect our democracy, ethical actions, and moral core of existence.

The day-to-day convictions of most of our fellow citizens can be divided into a moral division that we often see as the division between politically progressive (liberal) or conservative. This division is defined or depends on what you see as a good person and the right thing to do. Exploring deeper the concept of “good,” we can see this division as based on our understanding of family — what a good parent is to us. According to George Lakoff, the split of conservative and liberal can be compared to two kinds of parenting: strictness or nurturance. These qualities apply to morals and ethics in all facets of our life.

This division pertains to our thinking and understanding of family, morality, religion, and to our politics. As a nation, we do not have discourse on this aspect of the political division simply because these concepts reside in our cognitive unconscious and we are often not aware of the part they play in our day-to-day decisions and actions.

An example of this is how we see our parents. Parents are the first concept of God to a small child. A child cannot understand the abstraction of God, so in defining God they are told God gives all things. Everything a child receives comes from a parenting figure, thus if parenting figures are punitive and strict the child will grow into adulthood thinking that the source of life is punitive. Based on this understanding, political choices are made as well as religious ones. Political choices are made because a person chooses elected officials based on personal beliefs, rather than any abstract future presented by candidates during campaigns.

If we are to remain a democracy as a country we must come to grips with the profound divisions we see in the function of government, social programs (entitlements), accessibility of education, environmental issues, gun control, the death penalty, abortion, energy, civil rights, taxation and not least religious freedoms. The essential division in our beliefs about these issues can be reduced to strictness and nurturance.

The conservative leadership has spent quite a bit of time and money defining the meaning of family, morality, education, and other topics of political division. Conservative platforms, bills, executive orders, and press releases are all delivered in language that adheres to the concept of strictness; they are presented as ideas that conservatives can perceive as common sense, and lack any room for critical thinking. The conservative platforms strictly adhere to the definitions put forth, leaving little wiggle room in the enacting of rules set down by government officials. This kind of thinking is what I call black and white, either /or thinking, a school of thought based on excluding any outlying thoughts or circumstances. For instance, to allow Trans people to choose the restroom that fits their identity, one must recognize that people fall outside of the strict definition of male or female. To the black and white mind, the concept of a Trans person is not conceivable, so it must force anything that deals with possible sexuality variations (from the strict sense of gender definition) to move back into the either/or mode of male or female.

We are a blend of many different ideas. We all are a blend of conservative and progressive thinking and beliefs. This is perhaps easier understood when we think of education. I am a progressive thinker and voter, but I still believe that education should air on a conservative side — teaching cursive handwriting skills and math without calculators. At the same time, I believe school-aged Trans children should choose which restrooms they want to use.

No division is ever black and white; there are nuances that lend shades of gray to our thinking. To understand our adversaries we must begin to understand the subtleties of language and consciousness. As we speak of the unconscious mind we are speaking of those beliefs we are not aware of playing a part in our life.

In many ways, our country is in the middle of a parenting battle. Conservative father (strictness) symbols outline how we are to live and behave while the liberal mother (nurturance) symbols struggle to feed and nurture our inclusion of the diversity of humanity. For those of us who are primarily liberals, the new administration feels abusive. The father sees its role as protection (for example, the travel ban and wall), but the attitude of exclusion feels abusive and non-nurturing to the liberal mind. Children need guidelines in which they can safely explore and learn (thus nurturing the soul of the child), but safe guidelines don’t need to be exclusive or abusive. To many of us, the soul of our country and democracy is immigration, which brings new ideas and diversity to our nation.

If we are to sustain our freedom and democracy as a progressive community we must quickly learn to define our concepts of morality and ethics in a way that presents them as common sense and obtainable. We need parameters that keep us safe and yet allow us to grow and create in all our diversity. In many ways, it is a new way of thinking and educating our nemeses so they see the benefit and common sense of nurturing with parameters. Through community brainstorming, we must develop a vocabulary that expresses our ideals in a way that can be understood by the conservative mind. Discipline and parameters are a necessary part of creative growth, but they must be malleable in such a manner that we are not thrown into either /or thinking.

It is my belief that we can make truth an effective force for all humanity.

© 2017-2019 by Suzanne Deakins                                                                                          from NON Binary Thoughts

Political Morality Part 1 of 4

 

This is a series of 4 articles originally written in 2017 but very appropriate for today.

 This article started out about our moral and ethical deficits. Morality and Ethics are perceived based on our belief structure. The more I thought about the topic the deeper into the concept of consciousness and mind I delved.  To me, morals and ethics are based on our worldview, how we see our self in relationship to the environment and our fellow travelers. In this, we make decisions based on our early years and what we were taught as a good person, idea, and thought.  As a student of mind and consciousness, I can say about 90% of all decisions we make are from our unconscious mind based on our early years’ experiences. It is my hope, that the body of this commentary will help all of us see what we must do to protect our democracy, ethical actions, and moral core of existence.

The day-to-day convictions of most of our fellow citizens can be divided into a moral division that we often see as political progressive (liberal) or conservative. This division is defined or depends on what you see as a good person and the right thing to do. Exploring deeper the concept of “good” we can see this division is based on what kind of family we have. How we think and explain what a good parent is to us. According to George Lakoff, the split of conservative and liberal can be reduced to two kinds of parenting strictness or nurturance. These qualities apply to morals and ethics in all facets of our life.

This division pertains to our thinking and understanding of our family, to morality, religion, and our politics. As a nation, we do not have discourse on this aspect of the political division simply because these concepts reside in our cognitive unconscious and we are not aware of the part they play in our day-to-day decisions and actions.

An example of this is how we see our parents. Parents are the first concept of God to a small child. A child cannot understand the abstraction of God, so in defining God they are told God gives all things. Everything a child receives comes from a parenting figure, thus if parenting figures are punitive and strict the child will grow into adulthood thinking of God as a punitive source of life. Out of this religious choices are made as well as political choices. Political choices are made because a person chooses elected officials out personal beliefs, rather than any abstract future presented by candidates during campaigns.

If we are to remain a democracy as a country we must come to grips with the profound divisions we see in the function of government, social programs (entitlements), accessibility of education, environmental issues, gun control, the death penalty, abortion, energy, civil rights, taxation and not least religious freedoms. The essential division in our thinking of these concerns can be reduced to strictness and nurturance.

The conservative leadership has spent quite a bit of time and money defining the meaning of family, morality (as they see it), as well as education and other topics of political division. They define the topics in a way that their constituents can clearly see and understand and in fact see the proposals as common sense. The conservative platforms, bills, executive orders, press releases, are all stated in language that leaves little digression from the concept of strictness, is fraught with ideas that conservatives can relate to as common sense, and lack any room for abstract thinking. The conservative platforms present a strict cohesion to the definitions put forth leaving very little wiggle room in the thinking or enacting of rules/laws set down by government officials. This kind of thinking is what I call black and white, either /or thinking. All thought is based on excluding any outlying thoughts or circumstances. For instance to allow Trans people to choose the restroom that fits their identity falls outside of the strict definition of male or female. To the conservative mind, the concept of a Trans person is not conceivable. Thus the move to force anything that deals with possible sexuality variations (from the strict sense of gender definition) is required to move back into the either/or mode of male or female.

We are a blend of many different ideas. We all are a blend of conservative and progressive thinking and beliefs. This perhaps easier understood when we think of education. As a progressive voter and thinker, I still believe that education should air on a conservative side teaching cursive handwriting skills and math without calculators. At the same time, I believe school age Trans Children should choose which restrooms they want to use.

No division is ever black and white there are nuances that lend shades of gray to our thinking. A common symbol (or metaphor) is when we say something is hot we are saying to me it is hot and not that it is hot 100% as there is no 100% cold or hot. The space between is a blend and thus becomes shaded as a gray space. To understand what our adversaries are we must begin to understand the subtleties of language and mind/consciousness. As we speak of the unconscious mind we are speaking of those beliefs and thoughts we are not aware of playing a part in our life.

Conceptual metaphors are used in our thinking and speaking to explain abstract ideas. We Commonly use the metaphor of an eight on its side to explain infinity as having no beginning or end. We think in pictures, which we try to convert to words. Infinity to be understood is reduced from abstract to a visual.

This same process happens with morality many often think in financial terms and transaction. For instance, Karma is thought of as payback for deeds done. Morality is thought of in the sense of  “you did me a favor and now I owe you.” We often talk of morality in terms of debts and think of it in that manner. Think of such concepts of reprisal, justice, retribution, and compensation are often thought of in financial terms. Much of our moral reasoning is thought of in this type of metaphorical ideas. Progressive thinkers say many immigrants pay taxes and add to the workforce, conservatives say the law is the law and you can’t stay in this country without legal papers.

Returning to the idea of our beliefs coming from family experiences. Morality and ethics radiate from categories in our belief system (archetypical symbols). Morals and ethics are radial emanating from a central model, which has many subcategories but four main sections.

In many ways, our country is in the middle of a divorce. Parental conservative (strictness) father symbols outlining how we are to live and behave while the liberal mother (nurturance) is struggling to feed and nurture our new sense of inclusion of the diversity of humanity in many areas of life. For those of us who are primarily liberals, the new administration feels abusive. The father sees their role as protection (hence the travel band and wall). The overstepping where there is exclusion feels abusive and non- nurturing to the liberal mind. Those who are capable of doing straight thinking in the abstract know that guidelines for safety don’t need to be exclusive or abusive. Children need guidelines in which they can explore and learn (thus nurturing the soul of the child). To me, and many others, the soul of our country and democracy is immigration that brings new ideas and diversity to the palate of our nation.

If we are to sustain our freedom and democracy as a progressive community we must quickly learn to define our concept of morality and ethics in such a way that it seems to be common sense and obtainable. We need parameters that keep us safe and yet allow us to grow and create using the diversity we represent. In many ways, it is a new way of thinking and educating our nemeses so they see the benefit and common sense of nurturing with parameters. Through community brainstorming, we must develop a vocabulary that expresses our ideals and can be understood by the conservative mind and thinker. Discipline and parameters are a necessary part of creative growth. BUT they must be malleable, in such a manner, that we are not thrown into either /or thinking.

It is my belief that we can make Truth an effective force for all humanity.

(c) copyright 2017-2019 by Suzanne Deakins                                                                            from NON Binary thoughts..

 

 

Miracle of Surrender Part I

Miracles occur when what we believe and expect in outcomes aren’t in alignment with what happens. Miracles don’t happen from our ordinary thinking. They happen when we step outside our comfort zone of thinking and existence. They do not require clever thinking, but rather thinking with intent/purpose and passion. Miracles happen within our consciousness.

Consciousness is the accumulations of our beliefs, perceptions, and awareness. We are considered conscious when we experience our existence and can in some manner relate this to others. A way of understanding consciousness and the effect of our belief system on our perception and thinking is to imagine our beliefs are a pink light that surrounds a doorway. Walking through the doorway everything we sense see, smell, and taste is tainted by the pink light. The white rose becomes pink. Our friend’s doorway belief light is yellow and as he sees the same rose the color is yellow. Each of us is seeing our rose based on our belief, each of us right according to our belief.

Now imagine you have been told that you are stupid. Can’t do math, can’t talk right. This has been happening since you were a child and you now believe it. This belief now colors every task, every relationship in your world. Your responses to life are coated by the belief that you stupid and can’t accomplish anything.

Our consciousness and the beliefs that form it dictate our responses, perceptions, and understanding about our life. They actually form life as we experience and see it. The miracles of consciousness are when we have an insight, an eureka moment, where we let go of a belief that is dictating what we think we see and experience and replace it with principle, Truth, the nature of reality. The new insight or understanding frees our thinking from the boxes and limitations of old beliefs. This in turn changes what happens in our personal reality. Illness can become health, miss understanding and pain become healed, our stupidity is turned to creative brilliance. In reality nothing has changed but our thinking and our responses to life in our consciousness. Consequently even what we call structure changes and we respond differently.

These types of miracles of consciousness are produced when we surrender to our innate spiritual power, Truth. Spiritual power is based in an act of surrender­ing to higher source, to the Creator of all life and what we call Absolute Love.

To surrender is to yield to the power, control, or possession of another upon compulsion or de­mand; to give (oneself) over to something (as an influence); to give oneself up into the power of another. Surrender is a verb, a movement. It is not static.

Surrender is an important part of understand­ing intimacy and love. For there to be an ex­perience of purpose and meaning we must sur­render (in this case give up) our beliefs about our being. How can we be intimate with anoth­er if we think it is all set in the physical state? Intimacy, knowing and being known, happens in the mind, higher mind.

Spiritual surrender is about learning to let go and accepting life for what it is, not what we wish it could be. We each carry romantic ideas about our deity, lovers, and life. We carry a con­cept that spiritual reality is perfection. I have learned that the world of perfection is a lie. All life is from the Creator and this life contains the rose as well as the thorn that pricks. If the Cre­ator creates life then all life is from the Creator. We can’t have life and non-life in the same mo­ment. All life is creation. Just as our conscious­ness has created the life we live in so can it cre­ate a new life.

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Crossing The Hot Sands

As individual as our thumbprints so are our stories. In a sense our stories are karmic. Meaning they relate our past and consequences of our actions and sometimes our inactions. In the last three years we have been crossing the desert of existential void. We each have formed an identity connected to each other. It does not matter if we have loved each other or disliked the other. An identity, a description of ourselves, is formed with each meeting.

I don’t believe there is a punishing supreme being that penalizes and directs the course of my life. I don’t believe the universe is chaotic and without meaning or patterns of life. It is my experience that we give our life meaning by our very existence and our willingness to embrace our being as more than a frenzied second in the annuals of time.

With all loss and passing comes a sense of void. A dark place that is not familiar to us, a void. Somehow we are connected to this void and we inherently know this is an existential experience. In all religious texts, all stories written by great authors there is a sense of having to cross the sands of the existential void. The night of darkness where we cry out take me from this pain, and give me an answer why. In Christianity and many other religions this is seen as the 40 years in the desert spent by mosses, the 40 days spent by Jesus. In each case the metaphors/archetypes bring the protagonist to a point of self-realization. Realizing that they alone can give meaning and love to their life.

In ontological terms this is the time when, we as individuals realize we alone are responsible for our life. How we react to life and accept our actions and reactions. Where we realize that like Job in the Bible we find we are indeed existential in nature connected to all life and therefore our brother’s keeper. Meaning we are responsible for all that appears in our consciousness and our reactions to it.Like Joseph, of the many-colored coat, we a rise above the land of blaming others or needing a supreme being and realize we control our destiny by our actions and reactions to the world around us.

 

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The Fourth Way

I have come to believe that our relationships and the time we spend honoring others defines our spirit and consciousness in ways most do not understand. All Asian religions specifically Buddhism, and Taoism, and emphasize the importance of relationships in spiritual salvation and mental health. Christianity, Judaism, and Islamism have the foundations for the same, but you rarely see it practiced as you do in Asia. Being connected, belonging, and being embraced are all second nature to an Asian, but we struggle with the concept in the west. For instance many groups try to impart it with we are all one… there is only one… Truth is all there is… (Which is so but can go beyond logical appearance). Where in the west we think of disease as not being Truth, but a misperception, the Chinese (Buddhist and Taos) know it is Truth or natural and treat it accordingly, thus dealing with the universal principle present. As the psychiatrist said, (when I told him the disease that killed my daughter was not principled and was chaos) “ but it is principle and in order doing as it was created to do.”

I have learned that not until we embrace the chaos, the disease, and pain as Truth can we move forward. To fight something and deny its existence gives it silent power and locks us into a spiral of internal conflict searching relentless for a cure to our loneliness and vagueness of missing something or being empty.

While Aristotle’s teaching resides in our consciousness and forms the syllogistic process of how the mind works it also produces a kind of duality that keeps us from totally embracing life as whole and complete. Aristotle’s thinking basically teaches (as does the Truth Syllogism unless it is taught appropriately) that there is Truth and non-Truth (a duality). While the reality is there is only ONE no matter how we have been taught to think of it. And that ONE can appear in multiple ways at the same time. Embracing infinite realities at the same time produces a third wave of consciousness that mutates thought pushing it into a Fourth Way, which goes beyond space and time. In Fourth Way thinking you don’t go anywhere, seek anything, know anything, or experience anything other than infinite realities playing out at the same time. This place is often called the Great Silence, the Face of God, Nirvana, and heaven.

This Fourth Way of thinking is often seen as a confusion that can be easier understood when we think of math. It is impossible to perform an equation as we practice them without zero and yet if we divide 1 by one-half, and then continue the division of the quotient it is impossible to reach zero an infinite process that is without end. On another plan of math zero may not exist or 2 + 2=5 rather than 4 and again 2 + 2= can have infinite answers or realities within one state of existence. The practitioner of Sacred Math and Geometry sees infinite possibilities of different processes, which can only be understood by letting go of all previous understanding and experiences of reality. In this Thunder of Silence, the creative source of all life is made known. To achieve this state of being one must disentangle from all previous lives, understandings, and errors of thought, sorrows, and joys. It is only when we are truly untethered can we know we know not in infinite manifestation.

My wish for you in this New Year is that you stand on the cliff of Chaos allowing yourself to fall untethered and unbound into the infinite reality of love.

Anyway this is a digression as my point is simply we are appearing in multiple realities, perhaps infinite realities, and only through a relationship to life can we comprehend this. When fathom these ideas our soul is filled with love and joy.

Happy New Year 

A Day of Hope

Many years ago watching a Twilight Zone episode, I came across the importance of the concept of hope.  People in a desperate situation with illness gave up hope. The ill joined hands with those who were healthy so all of them would be sick. I laid in bed for many nights pondering what would make people give up hope for a cure. The only answer I had then and now is there was a lack of understanding of the very nature of humanity represented by the people portrayed in the episode.

The concept of hope is not about fantasizing winning a lottery or finding a soulmate. It is about understanding the very nature of reality. Of all of the attributes of humanity is the ability to change our beliefs and consciousness is perhaps the most notable.  There are many circumstances in life that cannot be changed.  It is the wise person who accepts what can be changed and surrenders to a higher power that which seems unchangeable.

Hope is something different than change. Hope is about trust.  The symbolic birth of a child is about bringing to light a kind of trust in the future of humanity. A hope that something more than the long cold nights will be available to us, the joy of the return of the birds song, the peace of existence, and absolute love a knowing we are a part of something greater than ourselves.  There is a kind of trust that humanity can over come dire circumstances to reach higher.  Higher in a sense of  understanding the nature of humanity.  To see clearly, without eyes filled with images of sugarplum fairies and fantasized perfection of existence, is to have hope.

This holiday is not about the perfect gifts or perfect anything it is about trust that the axiomatic presence of a higher source of consciousness will remain present no matter what the appearance. To trust the principle of light will return is to have hope.

The idea of gift giving is not about giving and receiving but rather sharing within our community.  When even the poor give to those with less we have a true community.  We are a species of sharing. Without sharing we loose our sense of community, trust, and belonging. The need to belong drives our humanity to extremes. We need to be a part of something greater than our individual existence. We seek to know there is life throughout the universe. We seek to join and belong because within community we find ourselves be it in reflection or cause. We belong by sharing.

My desire for you and all of us this season is, we will know we have the power, within our vessel of consciousness, to come up higher.  Reach out and take your neighbors hand in an act of sharing and hope.  In this you will join the great chorus of humanity singing the hallelujah chorus.  Only in sharing do you understand the five candles of the Advent. In this our fifth candle the nature of reality is fulfilled, the return of the light.

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Now is the Time for Seeding

Now is the time for seeding . . .                                                                                                   Now we lay deep the seeds                                                                                                        Which will birth our true selves                                                                                             When the time of light comes                                                                                                When the new forms are revealed

In the season at hand                                                                                                                          We draw life within                                                                                                                               We enfold it in darkness                                                                                                                    We bury our seeds deep, deep

Fallen from earlier harvests                                                                                                         Burst out of pods, shells, sheaths  and blossoms                                                             These seeds we gathered in other seasons:                                                                Joyous, exuberant                                                                                                                              We grew fat with their abundance                                                                                Nourished ourselves and our loved ones                                                                       Relished the grains and the fruits                                                                                               And all that the goddess brought forth                                                                                     In our lush fields and gardens

Until sated                                                                                                                                        With the goodness                                                                                                                          And spent with the feasting                                                                                                            We sift through hulls and husks                                                                                                      To discover the source                                                                                                                         Of our next season’s bounty

In this time of dark nights and quiet days                                                                            we draw into the womb                                                                                                                 these few precious kernels                                                                                                            we now glean from full baskets

This is no random planting                                                                                                            Cast broadside as in our summer days                                                                               Nor will it yield careless harvest                                                                                                 For with the wisdom                                                                                                                          Of ripening age                                                                                                                                      We undertake the sacred task                                                                                                         In reverent spirit

We sow as we shall reap                                                                                                              Gentle in the sowing                                                                                                                      Tender in the reaping

Now is the time for seeding . . . .

Now we lay deep our seeds                                                                                                            Set each with knowing fingers                                                                                                        Into loam rich                                                                                                                                      With blood and tears and brine

We bless that fertile compost                                                                                                      of our lives                                                                                                                                                Now become the nurturing ground                                                                                                 For our regeneration

Now we lay deep the seeds                                                                                                              That new life forms                                                                                                                          May come forth to feed us                                                                                                                 In the season of light

© copyright November 1990                                                                                                             ~ Sophia Douglas                                                                                                                             Seattle, 11.90

 

 

 

 

 

The Big Give-For

In 1969 I went through unimaginable pain. Emotional pain. I lost custody of my three older children. Not because I was an unfit mother, but because I thought the world was fair and that others would see truth as I saw it. My naiveté allowed me to believe in the myth that what I saw as good always wins.

Filled with anger and grief I began the long journey of finding out who I was and why I was a victim. My identity was based on my motherhood, stripped of that I found myself wondering the wilderness of mind, looking, and seeking answers.

I learned through the Prospero’s class called Releasing the Hidden Splendour (RHS), to release the anger and grief and give up the identity of victim. Like all self-discovery it took more than one year or perhaps one lifetime to come to terms with who I was at the core of my being.

In my work I found that I was angry with my children (and their father) for abandoning me, or so it felt like. My parents were also targets of my anger and pain. However, it was not until 1984 that the full impact of the idea of victim came to be the center of my attention. My daughter died from a horrendous disease, quickly and unexpectedly. Once again I found myself angry and in pain. I was a victim without recourse. I needed to know why once again I had been abandoned.

My self-work intensified. At the depth of my soul I wanted retribution for the pain and anger I felt. Using the tools of RHS once more I came to some astonishing insights.

Somehow like many others I had felt that I could change the past. I understood consciousness and taught it. I felt it was malleable and would reform the memories as I gave up the anger and pain. But we can’t and don’t change the past. We change how we relate to it. Unless we are willing to let go of our old relationships to memories, deeds, and emotions we will continue to relate in the same manner.

To give up all relationships and how we relate to memories is to give-for or forgive. In other words we cannot forgive because the past remains the same. But if we change how we relate we can forgive.

Forgiveness is a gift. No one can give you the power of forgiveness; no one can take the power of forgiveness from you. Forgiveness is yours to give. Forgiveness takes no other participant but you.

Forgiveness, giving up old walls that lock us into past resentments, anger, and pain, is self-healing. We heal from our emotional and physical wounds in ways that we never understood. We are liberated from our pain and bitterness; liberated from being a victim of our own consciousness. We become self empowered.

All victims feel hopeless and powerless. We instinctively know we cannot change our past circumstances only how we relate to it. When we release the pain we step into a realm of unlimited consciousness, into areas of life we could not know existed because of the emotional walls we built around our self, trying to survive and protect our feeling of powerlessness.

If you have ever been a victim, are angry, resentful, and searching contact me at suzannedeakins@gmail.com for seminars in your area of the world or get in touch with http://www.theprosperos.org for a list of seminars and teaching Mentors in your region.

© Suzanne Deakins from Radical Forgiveness available on amazon.com

Healing Our Community and Country

Healing Our Community and Country

This is being written before the election. By the time you read this the election outcome will have been decided. No matter how we voted it does not matter. A nation is not healed because of its leaders. What is going to heal us as a nation is not more rhetoric, but an outrages idea of compassion and love.

Nothing we do, study, meditate, pray, or Translate has any meaning unless we take what we have learned about love to another level. This is more than loving your brother or sister; this is about infusing our consciousness with love and compassion to the extent that our leaders can lead with love.

It doesn’t matter what party you belong to, or who you voted for. What matters is that you have the courage to stand up and ask for a leadership, which is based on love and compassion for the citizens of our country. This is a risk, because you will be going against the very grain of what many think this country needs.

We have allowed our minds to be captive to those who would tell us we will be happy if we have more jobs, more money, more, more, and more. What ails this country has nothing to do with the economics it has to do with us allowing our minds to be captive to greed and prejudice. We have allowed our thinking to be void of purpose and meaning that comes through love and compassion. The fear and angst is generated by an apparent vision that democracy is failing. The emotional state (fear of loosing control and power) of a country and communities is not small idea. It causes rebellions, violence, and destruction. We need to do something about the level of inequality in this country. This is not about socialism or communism but about making a kind of capitalism that also works for people at the bottom end of society.

As a country and a group we must reconcile what we feel is right with the agenda of those who are elected. To regain a sense of control and power we will need our governments, local and nationally, to show us that the citizens, the nation, and communities well being are foremost in the agendas. We must see them reconcile the divisiveness with reality. As individuals we can reclaim our sense of power and control by joining local groups that are facing issues such as inequality in income and housing and unjust laws. When we feel we are effective in our efforts we become empowered and our stress and fear levels drop. We can facilitate reconciliation between ideas and dogmas by showing compassion and listening to others with as little prejudice as we can muster.

I purpose we stand up and take our neighbors hand, standing together we let others know we are willing to take the risk, to be courageous. We don’t need to shout, “I am not going to take it any more.” We need to say I love you, and I carry you in my heart. We say it to our neighbors and our leaders, until they hear us. We say it the morning and the evening and on the mountains and in the valleys. We say it until we break the chains of fear and greed. We say it until every child is loved, feed, and free to find joy. We say it until every person is free of the shackles of fear aggression drives. We say it until no mind, no leader, no country can resist the nature of reality, Love/Truth.

Only in this is there ever a healing. The divisiveness of this electoral season has driven us to a new level of stress and worry. It is only through compassion and love that we will heal. Victor Frankle a noted psychologist, who survived the holocaust, found that those who survived and were able to create a life after the concentration camps were those who could relate to loving someone, or an ideal greater than their ego or the need to be right. In this they found purpose.

There are no right or wrong paths in life. Only when we embrace something greater than our own ego and greed are we healed. It is only when we no longer swallow the bitter pills and infuse our very soul with love and compassion that any of us ever heal.

Say it, say it to one another… Say you love each other, say it to me. Write it on your forehead, write it in your mind, in the sand of the shore, shout it to the mountains, sing it in the valleys until every person in our community, outside of community, state, nation, and world knows it to be so that we are a community of love and compassion.

 

Suzanne’s new book When God Whispers is now available on amazon.com