Sexual Fluidity Part 2

Gender is not binary. It has nothing to do with what we call sexual organs; it is a state of relating to our identity as consciousness. When someone asks me to say what pronouns I wish to be called, I find myself confused. For, to me I am infinite genders capable of expressing in unknown ways and feelings yet to be defined.

Sexuality is like having a taste for certain foods. Our tastes for sexual encounters and acts have nothing to do with gender identification, genital, or any other physical identification we may have. Our tastes are formed out of our evolving fractal patterns of existence.

All life is a series of sexual encounters. A bit shocking, I know, but true… thinking of sexuality as an act of physical orgasm between two people limits awareness of the possibilities of the emergence of fractal patterns. When orgasm occurs life is created. I am defining life as new energy patterns, manifesting as fractal patterns replicating and varying, as they unfold. Be it with a partner or self each orgasm brings new life to the universe because creation does not demand male and female to come together, nor does it demand an ergot and sperm to be fertile.

Each life design emerges as whole and complete a totality as a replication of a fractal pattern of the creator source. It holds the entire universal array in its structure. The emergence can be physical, mental, and emotional it isn’t limited by any binary concept of conception and manifestation of life. Once we release the concept it is a part of our existence. We have done more at the moment if creation than create a singular idea, but like dropping a stone into a pond we have created a change throughout the entire universe as we experience it in our consciousness.

Out of the consciousness of our life experience comes the foundation of our creations. We are not limited by physical experiences, for we are mental beings capable of conjuring, bringing into existence the entirety of our imagination, and dream life. It is when we release our thinking from limited binary thought and preconditioning about the nature of reality that we become the great artist, the creator of extraordinary acts of courage, empathy, and love.

Our perception of sexuality influences our every second of existence. From how we cook and serve our food, painting, writing, using a camera, parenting, riding a bicycle, you name it every facet of our life is influences by our perception of sexuality and our relationship to consciousness.

If you were to walk away with one idea from reading this it should be that you are not binary, not gender, but a sexual being that is total, whole expression of all life, consciousness. You are capable of great feats of courage, empathy, nurture, discipline, and love. We are the creators of our world. It is through our very thoughts, actions, and emotions that life emerges. You need only have gained one small stone if an idea to drop in the sea of sexuality to start the process.

© 2019 Suzanne Deakins                                                                                                            Sexual Fluidity, Non-Binary Thoughts

Sexual Fluidity Part 1

Mothers’ day is a symbol of the ability within each of us to nurture, grow, and sustain life. It is only in the last couple of decades that we have acknowledged that mothering is not limited by gender. The energies we call mother and father reside in each individual no matter how they identify their gender. Perhaps, going back to Adam and the naming of life we began to divide our world into an either/or, black/or white, and a binary existence. The trouble with a binary existence is it is an illusion. It leaves most of us in a psychotic state of being. That is, we are living in an illusion that everyone/everything is the same or opposite. The Truth is that our world is a fractal series of infinite patterns that continuously forms new configurations of being. It is an infinite never-ending manifestation of consciousness.

These new configurations often cause us to grapple with our awareness and what we thought was so about the nature of reality. We spend hours trying to force new insights and patterns into old thinking. Biblically we try to put new wine into old bottles (skin bags). Trying to put the evolution of consciousness into old systems, old thought avenues limits our power to integrate into the flow of the evolving fractal patterns, leaving us to live in a delusion of a static language, insights, and systems.

True power of any kind lies in the ability to let go of a binary vision and thinking. It means as we embrace that at the level of consciousness/awareness we are all the same, tritely put ONE, and yet we are infinitely different evolving as a fractal array constantly, infinitely forming new patterns and connections to all life. The power in life comes via connection, inclusion, rather than disconnection and exclusion.

When we don’t see the connections in all life as well as the infinite fractal patterns as being connected in our consciousness we loose empathy, conscience, and our ability to see the consequences of our actions and habits. We in fact become psychopathic. Our actions become serial in nature, repeating the same thoughts and actions without different outcomes.

To be healthy, emotionally, physically, and mentally we need to be nurtured. A nurturing person (sans gender) recognizes differences, patterns, and connectedness in all that come to them. This to me is the nature of a true healer, teacher, and parent. This is the omnipotence of the feminine within each being.

Gender and sexuality are not the same. Through the millennium we have been taught that sex is gender and that there are only two, that our system is binary. We are not a binary race. As far as I can observe every living being, plant animal, life is unique, non-binary in nature. Developing our consciousness we form our own one-off gender and way of connecting with life. From the moment we establish our fractal patterns in utero we are the true meaning of androgynous, non-specific in our gender able to be as a chameleon changing and being infinite in our expression.

Gender is not binary. It has nothing to do with what we call sexual organs; it is a state of relating to our identity as consciousness. When someone asks me to say what pronouns I wish to be called, I find myself confused. For, to me I am infinite genders capable of expressing in unknown ways and feelings yet to be defined.

Sexuality is like having a taste for certain foods. Our tastes for sexual encounters and acts have nothing to do with gender identification, genital, or any other physical identification we may have. Our tastes are formed out of our evolving fractal patterns of existence.

© 2019 Suzanne Deakins                                                                                                            Sexual Fluidity, Non-Binary Thoughts

June 22, 2019 a short seminar on the Power of the Feminine will be presented. There is no charge, and is by contribution. If you wish more information write me at onespiritpress@gmail.com

 

 

 

Political Morality Part 4

Refuse the Bitter Pills

We are in the biggest crisis of our existence. The crisis has nothing to do with energy, inequality, human rights, or a war on terrorism. It has to do with our countries moral and ethical compass. Morals and ethics are not learned they come from our inner understanding of our presence as a global traveler, as a member of the great collective called humanity.

Our society is conflicted with contractions that put our future in peril.  When one group loses freedoms the whole world loses.

Living with contradictions has become a way of life for intelligent people. With Ketman like qualifications leaders assert they have the right to be wrong. Being wrong is more than just aligning oneself with a mistake it deals with joining the delusion of a democracy and the right to expression. Our human past is replete with revolutions born out of Ketman like silence. The Ketman effect is when those in a position to change the course of history, by positive assertion of Truth and premises based on Truth and reality, and yet they deny what is right out of fear and lack of courage. Simply put, the act of covering one’s behind… rather than take a stand for what is right for all people.

Refusing to be responsible is opium to the ego mind. Intelligent leaders are swept up in the euphoria by being mediocre and their unwillingness to shout out for what is right. Why are we willing to sacrifice our sense of justice and equality for all, for this illusion and euphoria of being mediocre? What kind of pill have we been swallowing to allow our country, our world get to this place in consciousness. While we criticize another country for their incarceration of individuals for their need to express themselves we vote in politicians that would limit our freedoms. We vote in those who tell us that our freedoms are limited to their narrow view of life.

We hear politicians tell us that those who are homosexual aren’t of God… what is next? Will we vote these idiots into office and watch while they tell us those who practice learning another language or reading a book or producing a painting are not of God? Not as far fetched as you might think. Historically the lack of support of arts and languages is the path that dictators take.

The question remains why are intelligent people willing to stand behind a premise that is foul and destructive? How does one live with a contradiction knowing the Truth and yet willing to live the lie. Searching through all that I can I am stupefied by this willingness to accept erroneous beliefs except for one small idea. We have lost our courage and pioneering spirit. Becoming complacent in our convictions and willing to side with erroneous beliefs…

Forget about the red and yellow peril of the past generations and look at what we are constructing. As the leader of democracy we are a peril to the very health of what democracy stands for. We have decided that equal is treating everyone the same rather than celebrating the individuality of being. We have decided that we know what is of Truth. Our policy is no longer one of embracing the huddle masses… but of exclusion.

The courage to be takes us out of the illusion of ordinary into an extraordinary state of existence. Our lives become one of embracing individuality and yet understanding the core of all life is of one idea no matter what it is called. Those with courage of being don’t have to spout their passion they live it. They are willing to stand up in the face of adversity for what is Truth and right for all. Those with the courage to be protect children from the rhetoric of fear and the opium of delusion. Individuality becomes a source of pride and celebration. Freedom for all is the major premise of governing law.

The courage to be is more than accepting Truth. It is about freeing our minds from the captivity of the delusion of freedom and ego. As long as our intellects remain captive we will cover our behinds and invoke the Ketman aspect of consciousness.

To become courageous refuse to swallow the bitter pills we are handed stand up to those who would pervert our freedom and feed us false premises.

Call out: Those with the courage to be protect children from the rhetoric of fear and the opium of delusion. Individuality becomes a source of pride and celebration. Freedom for all is the major premise of governing law.

© 2017-2019 by Suzanne Deakins                                                                                           From NON Binary Thoughts

 

 

Political Morality Part 3

Decoding Our Moral System as a Country

Nothing in this series is meant to give validity to one or other way of thinking. It is simply meant to awaken us to how this system is working.

Morality is nonphysical, abstract, and based on what we have been taught. The strict father sense of morality is based on the idea that the world is fundamentally a dangerous place and life is difficult. You must be disciplined to succeed and be a good upright person.

Those who fall in this strict father belief system apply the belief to the running of government. For instance when a city or group of people disobey the father’s (President, governor’s, or mayor’s rules) there is a punishment such as the withholding of funds to sanctuary cities. Rules are made by leaders to protect the people, to help citizens to become self-disciplined such as the campaign by President Reagan to just say no to sex and drugs. Saying no would imply that the individuals had self-discipline etc.

The Strict Father Goals are to 1) maintain order 2) supporting and preserving the system of authority 3) using authority to protect those under their authority 4) using authority to help people become better through discipline. Evil is anything external or internal that is contrary to the rules set by the authority. Good is that which defends the rules and is disciplined.

Moral Strength, being good is being upright, evil is falling. Morality is strength. Moral strength is seen in two lights. You must have moral strength in order to stand up to evil and the moral strength creates (defines) the evil. This concept of morality dismisses social energies, social classes etc. If you can say no to sex, drugs, and rock and roll, you are morally a good person with self-discipline all else is a failing. Rules and laws are put in place to reward and protect those good people who have self- discipline and are good upright people. Hence the idea that those in higher income bracket deserve tax breaks (rewards for being good people). Rewards are based on competition and playing by the rules. Hence, gathering large quantities of money is seen as winning a competition and thus being a good upright person.

The moral order is: God is more powerful than people; People are more powerful than plants, animals, and natural objects (this has broad indication on environmental laws and enforcement); Adults are more powerful than children, and Men are inherently more powerful than women (implications about women’s health concerns are indicated here.)

The Nurturant Mother model has similar goals to the Strict Father model, such as protection and helping others to become self-reliant. However, how this modality works is based on a very different perception of morality. Protection is seen as caring for the individuals or social class to protect them from external danger. Competition is not a concern of the nurturant parent. A successful life for the nurturant is one where the child learns to care for others (empathy). The protections from evils are seen differently. Crime and drugs are still seen as dangers, but dangers also include less obvious dangers such as cigarettes, cars without seat belts, dangerous toys, pollution, asbestos…etc. Included in this long list are unscrupulous businesses and persons. To protect the child the nurturant parent needs courage and strength. Children respond to the nurturant parent out of love and respect rather than fear of punishment.

It is important to note that the nurturant parent does not see happiness connected with the accumulation of worldly goods, but rather the ability of the child to establish empathy and compassion with family and social ties. Social ties must be maintained to remain moral. Morality is empathy. But empathy is more than the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule requires you accept others value system in order to have empathy. This in turn can create a paradox because the value system of empathy is needed to treat the situation. Yet if a nurturant is to have empathy for a strict father person whose values are quite different from the nurturant mother’s values a paradox is created. This situation of course is not reversible, as the Strict Father model does not need to consider the values of the Nurturant Mother’s values. For the strict father’s values are seen as absolute and irrefutable.

In government we can see how laws and rules play out through Nurturant governance. Programs and laws are initiated in areas such education, care (health coverage for all) , social security, financial aid, fair immigration policies that allow dream children to become naturalized without the fear of deportation. In the nurturant parent model of government All people are seen as equal and good, and capable of empathic acts. Punishment becomes different forms of education helping the person become an empathic capable person for their community.

Immigration: The nurturant parent will say see how much they give to the community (family) they are good upright individuals.” The strict parent says “they have broken the law and must be disciplined (deported).”

For the nurturant parent: Morality is empathy; morality is taking care of oneself; self-development of human potential; Morality is happiness (one must be happy to help others achieve happiness); Morality is fair distribution.

Moral failings for the nurturant person are: Lack of social responsibility, lack of empathy, self-righteousness, narrow-mindedness, inconsideration, aesthetic insensitivity, meanness, uncommunicative (lack of response avoiding honest conversation), and self-centeredness to name a few.

Our goal is to understand our self and others so the lines of communication can be opened.

© 2017-2019 by Suzanne Deakins                                                                                           from NON Binary Thoughts

 

Political Morality Part 2

As a student of mind and consciousness, I have learned that 90% of all decisions are made from our unconscious mind based on our early years’ experiences. Morality and ethics are perceived through the lens of our belief structure; we make decisions based on what we were taught is a good person, idea, and thought. Now, perhaps more than ever, it is crucial that we recognize what we must do to protect our democracy, ethical actions, and moral core of existence.

The day-to-day convictions of most of our fellow citizens can be divided into a moral division that we often see as the division between politically progressive (liberal) or conservative. This division is defined or depends on what you see as a good person and the right thing to do. Exploring deeper the concept of “good,” we can see this division as based on our understanding of family — what a good parent is to us. According to George Lakoff, the split of conservative and liberal can be compared to two kinds of parenting: strictness or nurturance. These qualities apply to morals and ethics in all facets of our life.

This division pertains to our thinking and understanding of family, morality, religion, and to our politics. As a nation, we do not have discourse on this aspect of the political division simply because these concepts reside in our cognitive unconscious and we are often not aware of the part they play in our day-to-day decisions and actions.

An example of this is how we see our parents. Parents are the first concept of God to a small child. A child cannot understand the abstraction of God, so in defining God they are told God gives all things. Everything a child receives comes from a parenting figure, thus if parenting figures are punitive and strict the child will grow into adulthood thinking that the source of life is punitive. Based on this understanding, political choices are made as well as religious ones. Political choices are made because a person chooses elected officials based on personal beliefs, rather than any abstract future presented by candidates during campaigns.

If we are to remain a democracy as a country we must come to grips with the profound divisions we see in the function of government, social programs (entitlements), accessibility of education, environmental issues, gun control, the death penalty, abortion, energy, civil rights, taxation and not least religious freedoms. The essential division in our beliefs about these issues can be reduced to strictness and nurturance.

The conservative leadership has spent quite a bit of time and money defining the meaning of family, morality, education, and other topics of political division. Conservative platforms, bills, executive orders, and press releases are all delivered in language that adheres to the concept of strictness; they are presented as ideas that conservatives can perceive as common sense, and lack any room for critical thinking. The conservative platforms strictly adhere to the definitions put forth, leaving little wiggle room in the enacting of rules set down by government officials. This kind of thinking is what I call black and white, either /or thinking, a school of thought based on excluding any outlying thoughts or circumstances. For instance, to allow Trans people to choose the restroom that fits their identity, one must recognize that people fall outside of the strict definition of male or female. To the black and white mind, the concept of a Trans person is not conceivable, so it must force anything that deals with possible sexuality variations (from the strict sense of gender definition) to move back into the either/or mode of male or female.

We are a blend of many different ideas. We all are a blend of conservative and progressive thinking and beliefs. This is perhaps easier understood when we think of education. I am a progressive thinker and voter, but I still believe that education should air on a conservative side — teaching cursive handwriting skills and math without calculators. At the same time, I believe school-aged Trans children should choose which restrooms they want to use.

No division is ever black and white; there are nuances that lend shades of gray to our thinking. To understand our adversaries we must begin to understand the subtleties of language and consciousness. As we speak of the unconscious mind we are speaking of those beliefs we are not aware of playing a part in our life.

In many ways, our country is in the middle of a parenting battle. Conservative father (strictness) symbols outline how we are to live and behave while the liberal mother (nurturance) symbols struggle to feed and nurture our inclusion of the diversity of humanity. For those of us who are primarily liberals, the new administration feels abusive. The father sees its role as protection (for example, the travel ban and wall), but the attitude of exclusion feels abusive and non-nurturing to the liberal mind. Children need guidelines in which they can safely explore and learn (thus nurturing the soul of the child), but safe guidelines don’t need to be exclusive or abusive. To many of us, the soul of our country and democracy is immigration, which brings new ideas and diversity to our nation.

If we are to sustain our freedom and democracy as a progressive community we must quickly learn to define our concepts of morality and ethics in a way that presents them as common sense and obtainable. We need parameters that keep us safe and yet allow us to grow and create in all our diversity. In many ways, it is a new way of thinking and educating our nemeses so they see the benefit and common sense of nurturing with parameters. Through community brainstorming, we must develop a vocabulary that expresses our ideals in a way that can be understood by the conservative mind. Discipline and parameters are a necessary part of creative growth, but they must be malleable in such a manner that we are not thrown into either /or thinking.

It is my belief that we can make truth an effective force for all humanity.

© 2017-2019 by Suzanne Deakins                                                                                          from NON Binary Thoughts

Political Morality Part 1 of 4

 

This is a series of 4 articles originally written in 2017 but very appropriate for today.

 This article started out about our moral and ethical deficits. Morality and Ethics are perceived based on our belief structure. The more I thought about the topic the deeper into the concept of consciousness and mind I delved.  To me, morals and ethics are based on our worldview, how we see our self in relationship to the environment and our fellow travelers. In this, we make decisions based on our early years and what we were taught as a good person, idea, and thought.  As a student of mind and consciousness, I can say about 90% of all decisions we make are from our unconscious mind based on our early years’ experiences. It is my hope, that the body of this commentary will help all of us see what we must do to protect our democracy, ethical actions, and moral core of existence.

The day-to-day convictions of most of our fellow citizens can be divided into a moral division that we often see as political progressive (liberal) or conservative. This division is defined or depends on what you see as a good person and the right thing to do. Exploring deeper the concept of “good” we can see this division is based on what kind of family we have. How we think and explain what a good parent is to us. According to George Lakoff, the split of conservative and liberal can be reduced to two kinds of parenting strictness or nurturance. These qualities apply to morals and ethics in all facets of our life.

This division pertains to our thinking and understanding of our family, to morality, religion, and our politics. As a nation, we do not have discourse on this aspect of the political division simply because these concepts reside in our cognitive unconscious and we are not aware of the part they play in our day-to-day decisions and actions.

An example of this is how we see our parents. Parents are the first concept of God to a small child. A child cannot understand the abstraction of God, so in defining God they are told God gives all things. Everything a child receives comes from a parenting figure, thus if parenting figures are punitive and strict the child will grow into adulthood thinking of God as a punitive source of life. Out of this religious choices are made as well as political choices. Political choices are made because a person chooses elected officials out personal beliefs, rather than any abstract future presented by candidates during campaigns.

If we are to remain a democracy as a country we must come to grips with the profound divisions we see in the function of government, social programs (entitlements), accessibility of education, environmental issues, gun control, the death penalty, abortion, energy, civil rights, taxation and not least religious freedoms. The essential division in our thinking of these concerns can be reduced to strictness and nurturance.

The conservative leadership has spent quite a bit of time and money defining the meaning of family, morality (as they see it), as well as education and other topics of political division. They define the topics in a way that their constituents can clearly see and understand and in fact see the proposals as common sense. The conservative platforms, bills, executive orders, press releases, are all stated in language that leaves little digression from the concept of strictness, is fraught with ideas that conservatives can relate to as common sense, and lack any room for abstract thinking. The conservative platforms present a strict cohesion to the definitions put forth leaving very little wiggle room in the thinking or enacting of rules/laws set down by government officials. This kind of thinking is what I call black and white, either /or thinking. All thought is based on excluding any outlying thoughts or circumstances. For instance to allow Trans people to choose the restroom that fits their identity falls outside of the strict definition of male or female. To the conservative mind, the concept of a Trans person is not conceivable. Thus the move to force anything that deals with possible sexuality variations (from the strict sense of gender definition) is required to move back into the either/or mode of male or female.

We are a blend of many different ideas. We all are a blend of conservative and progressive thinking and beliefs. This perhaps easier understood when we think of education. As a progressive voter and thinker, I still believe that education should air on a conservative side teaching cursive handwriting skills and math without calculators. At the same time, I believe school age Trans Children should choose which restrooms they want to use.

No division is ever black and white there are nuances that lend shades of gray to our thinking. A common symbol (or metaphor) is when we say something is hot we are saying to me it is hot and not that it is hot 100% as there is no 100% cold or hot. The space between is a blend and thus becomes shaded as a gray space. To understand what our adversaries are we must begin to understand the subtleties of language and mind/consciousness. As we speak of the unconscious mind we are speaking of those beliefs and thoughts we are not aware of playing a part in our life.

Conceptual metaphors are used in our thinking and speaking to explain abstract ideas. We Commonly use the metaphor of an eight on its side to explain infinity as having no beginning or end. We think in pictures, which we try to convert to words. Infinity to be understood is reduced from abstract to a visual.

This same process happens with morality many often think in financial terms and transaction. For instance, Karma is thought of as payback for deeds done. Morality is thought of in the sense of  “you did me a favor and now I owe you.” We often talk of morality in terms of debts and think of it in that manner. Think of such concepts of reprisal, justice, retribution, and compensation are often thought of in financial terms. Much of our moral reasoning is thought of in this type of metaphorical ideas. Progressive thinkers say many immigrants pay taxes and add to the workforce, conservatives say the law is the law and you can’t stay in this country without legal papers.

Returning to the idea of our beliefs coming from family experiences. Morality and ethics radiate from categories in our belief system (archetypical symbols). Morals and ethics are radial emanating from a central model, which has many subcategories but four main sections.

In many ways, our country is in the middle of a divorce. Parental conservative (strictness) father symbols outlining how we are to live and behave while the liberal mother (nurturance) is struggling to feed and nurture our new sense of inclusion of the diversity of humanity in many areas of life. For those of us who are primarily liberals, the new administration feels abusive. The father sees their role as protection (hence the travel band and wall). The overstepping where there is exclusion feels abusive and non- nurturing to the liberal mind. Those who are capable of doing straight thinking in the abstract know that guidelines for safety don’t need to be exclusive or abusive. Children need guidelines in which they can explore and learn (thus nurturing the soul of the child). To me, and many others, the soul of our country and democracy is immigration that brings new ideas and diversity to the palate of our nation.

If we are to sustain our freedom and democracy as a progressive community we must quickly learn to define our concept of morality and ethics in such a way that it seems to be common sense and obtainable. We need parameters that keep us safe and yet allow us to grow and create using the diversity we represent. In many ways, it is a new way of thinking and educating our nemeses so they see the benefit and common sense of nurturing with parameters. Through community brainstorming, we must develop a vocabulary that expresses our ideals and can be understood by the conservative mind and thinker. Discipline and parameters are a necessary part of creative growth. BUT they must be malleable, in such a manner, that we are not thrown into either /or thinking.

It is my belief that we can make Truth an effective force for all humanity.

(c) copyright 2017-2019 by Suzanne Deakins                                                                            from NON Binary thoughts..